WILL YOU ALLOW YOUR WIFE TO WORK IF YOU ARE A VERY WEALTHY MAN?

Last time I posed the question whether if you had about $100 million in your account, you will allow your wife to work and the few responses I got tells me that this is an issue no many give a thought to but I can assure you it is an issue that has lead to many a divorce cases.

In Africa and Asia, the man is viewed and still viewed as the bread winner and in many cases marriage to a wealthy man is something many young ladies desire in order to pull their family out of poverty. A young lady will rather choose an already made man than to start life with a man who has nothing.

I am not for one moment advocating that to marry an already made man is the guarantee to a happy life because I have seen young men who started as nobodies become highly successful, while the so called already made men became poor over time.

Having said that, the crux of the matter stems from statistics that show that many Nigerians married to nurses who they helped to travel from Nigeria to the US ended up killing a good number of the ladies. There was the homicide case of a Nigerian who in cold blood murdered his wife in the bath tub because she had become so successful and independent in the US that she no longer respected her husband or his views.

I do not know the details of what transpired between the couple except that which was published nor am I endorsing the savagery of the man but I am only trying to put things in perspective and that is to say many men prefer their wives to be totally dependent on them for several reasons.

The first reason I see is that it is an ego thing – male chauvinism it is called. The average man sees himself as a conqueror and his wife as his conquest. He therefore tried to do mall within his powers to keep his treasure or price and anything that tends to distort this image is resisted. One such contentious issue is the quest for female equality and liberty. 

When a woman and a wife for that matter begins to pursue things like career or business with the sole aim of becoming independent from her husband, then trouble is sure knocking at the door. However if the wife’s quest for financial emancipation is to augment the family income, even if she becomes more successful than the man, the man does not feel threatened  and his ego is intact.

There are families where the woman tried to outdo the man by operating outside the vision of her husband and once that is in place then such a woman is working against God’s original purpose for the wife which is to be a help mate to her husband.

More next time!

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