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Wednesday, 14 January 2015

PROBLEMS OF MARRIAGE 6



Be Content with your Present Level of Income
Luke 3: 14
                                “And the Soldiers likewise demanded of him saying. And what shall we do? And he said unto them. Do violence to no man, neither accuse any one falsely, and be content with your wages.”
John the Baptist said something to the soldiers that I think we should all heed. As he was preaching his dynamic message, the soldiers came and said to him, “what shall we do?” and he replied, “… be content with your wages.”

When you are not content with your wages, you will go borrowing. One major reason why people do not have a right attitude towards their expenditure is because they do not have a clear vision about their financial future and therefore are never satisfied with their level of income. A person with a clear vision knows that with careful and prayerful planning, he can achieve his financial goals irrespective of his present earnings. A vision driven man is not likely to be prone to greed or financial excesses. One reason why people are not content with what they have is that they want to have what others have. But someone with a vision who knows that he will have all he needs in God’s own time will be relaxed. Another reason is that many fail to prioritize their expenditure; they buy just about anything to satisfy their cravings or the expectations of people. Before you know it, they are not able to meet their needs and begin to look for extraneous ways to increase their wages. However, it is common knowledge that no amount of wages can satisfy a man – be content with your present level while trusting God for a promotion.

Where do you intend to be in say 10, 20, 30 years time or more? You must have a vision as to where you are going and you should work towards it. For example, though building a house in Lagos is expensive, if you agree with your wife that you want to build a house in Lagos before you turn 45 and you work in line with your vision you will achieve it. It may seem impossible but our God does impossible things. Remember that the Bible says that whatever you agree here on earth will be sanctioned in heaven.
So, do you have a working plan or a financial plan? Or did I hear you say, I don’t know? Then, talk to people who know so that they can help you to come up with one.

Attitude to Money
If you do not have a right attitude to money then you will experience poverty. In fact, if you do not take hold of your finances, and have it managed properly while invariably growing it, you will have myriads of problems. I see a lot of people who once were living in Lagos move back to their villages because rents had gone up, property and food prices skyrocketed and they were no longer able to make ends meet.

                          Remember the parable of the talents! Jesus said to the one who hid his Lord’s money, “thou wicked and unprofitable servant.” Thereafter, he commanded, “Take that money from him. Give it to those who know how to handle money.” Let’s reason together, does his punishment not amount to poverty? He was reduced to nothing. Finally, Jesus asked them to cast the unprofitable servant into outer darkness where there would be weeping and gnashing of teeth. 

        A young ruler came to Jesus and asked him, master, “What shall I do to inherit eternal life” Luke 18:18.  Jesus asked him, “Do you know the ten commandments?” and he answered, “Yes.” Then Jesus said to him, “Go and sell everything you have and give it to the poor.” The Bible records that he went away sad because he wanted eternal life but was not ready to part with his money. He also had a wrong attitude towards money.

In another instance, people were giving lands in the early church and so a man named Barnabas sold his land and gave the money to the church. Another couple named Annaias and Sapphira also decided to sell their land and gave part of the returns to the church pretending that they gave all in order to obtain the same blessing that accrued to those who gave everything. What ensued was a calamity. The spirit of God accosted them and the two of them died. They both died because of a wrong attitude towards money.

Then, there was a young man who sold his master for money. His name is Judas. He betrayed Jesus and sold him for thirty pieces of silver. He too died a horrible death. What I am saying invariably, is that, if you do not have the right attitude to money, you will cut your life short in one way or the other. It is either you are unable to feed yourself and you die early or you are ill and you are not able to afford the medical bills.

                           It is not a question of whether you are earning a huge amount or not. As a minister of God, I may not earn as much as some of my counterparts in other ministries, but I have learned to manage and multiply what I have so as not to depend on my salary alone. I adopted this method so that I can also contribute to the growth of the church. It is not how much you earn but how much you set aside for investment.  As a matter of fact, there are those who earn huge amount but lavish it all on unnecessary things. You can surpass them if you know how to engage your money to work for you. Keep your expenses low and invest the rest. I advise that you go for financial training, or what is called financial intelligence; Learn to invest in stocks. I recommend you read my book, “The Way of the Rich”, which gives practical advice on how to multiply money and become wealthy.

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Monday, 12 January 2015

PROBLEM OF MARRIAGE 5



Agreeing on Money

The Concept of Money

                           For everyone, whether intending couples or married ones money is very vital and important to everything we do. There is scarcely anything you can do without money. If you don’t have money you won’t live comfortably and if you don’t live well you may die early. You need money to live a good life. Primarily, you need money to serve God.

I have discovered that what makes people poor is bad handling of money. When you do not handle money the way you should, you will be poor. Money comes to everybody, although the quantity that you get may be little compared to others. However, if you know how to handle the little that comes to you, you will have more money to spend in the near future. Money is too important to be ignored in the family. Therefore, we must talk about money management in the family. This issue has generated a lot of quarrels in homes in the past. In fact, there have been more quarrels in families about money than on any other issue. 

Money is a Servant
                          First, know this money is a servant to you: make up your mind that money will never separate you. Do you know that there are people who live better and harmoniously when they had little money than when they had more? When their money increased it separated them! The money they had been praying and working for came and separated them. Why? Because they allowed money to control them! Money was allowed to determine how they lived and it ultimately controlled the atmosphere in the home.

Learn the Use of Money
                          Agree that you will learn how to use money because there is a learning process to this. We must have the right attitude before we can handle money properly. If you do not have the right attitude towards monetary expenditure, you will encounter problems. Let me give you a glimpse of people who do not have the right attitude to handling money. Such people always overspend; spending well above their earnings.

What leads people to indebtedness is over spending. As long as a person overspends he or she cannot be rich. Proverbs 22:7 says that “a borrower is always a servant to the lender”. There are people today who borrow money to buy clothes. Others buy shoes, wristwatches and jewelries on credit.  Such people spend their salaries before they earn it. So one wonders how they intend to make ends meet. This is one thing you must not involve yourself in. Make the money first, and then you will be qualified to spend it.

 Femi Imevbore
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Wednesday, 7 January 2015

PROBLEMS OF MARRIAGE 4




Money
In this section, I will be addressing the importance of agreeing on money. If you have never talked about money before you got married, I assure you that you will after the wedding ceremony. So if you do not have an agreement about money before you got married, then you will have lots of debates and arguments afterwards. This section aims at pin pointing monetary issues couples need to talk about. When you discuss these issues, they will not only help you but will certainly guarantee a better home for you.

         Your marriage is more important than your wedding. You may impress the whole world with your wedding, in fact, everybody may come and “envy” you on your wedding day but it will be only you and your wife left after the wedding. Therefore, between your wedding and your marriage, which is more important?

The wedding is just for one day while marriage could last for 60 years or even a lifetime. Shouldn’t you then, be more concerned about your marriage than your wedding? The issues raised in this book will make you think ahead. Note that if you do not plan for yourself; situation will make plans for you.

             Having said that, you do not have to be enslaved by your agreements because, you might have agreed on some things before marriage only for you to discover that during the course of marriage they need to be revisited. In this case, all you need to do is to review them together. This is the essence of togetherness in marriage. You can certainly review them again and again and take fresh decisions as the need arises. Agreement does not suggest insistence on what one wants nor does it mean disagreeing on anything you do not want, even when you have a good reason to do so. It is always good to have a discussion, debate and bring out your strong points. As long as both of you are working together towards the achievement of one goal, that is,  raising a good family and neither of you has a selfish interest or motive, you will do well. 

In effect, your overall effort must be geared towards seeing both of you making progress in life.


 Femi Imevbore
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Monday, 5 January 2015

Problems of Marriage 3




 Lack of Mutual Agreement
The Bible says in Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together except they are agreed? Frankly speaking, the answer is NO. They cannot.

It does not matter how much you love each other, if you fail to agree on certain issues, there will be conflicts. What I know is that if you do not agree on issues, I do not see your love for each other lasting. Personally, I prefer conviction to love. If you get married to someone because you love him/her, that’s fantastic! But I wish what you have is primarily conviction and not just love, because love can always dissipate, just the same way it came. The day he talks rudely to you, you will forget that you love him. The day she does things that you do not expect her to do; you will forget that you ever loved her. However, if you are convinced and there is the deep conviction inside you that this is the woman you should marry, let the heavens fall, you will not be moved.

Matthew 18:18 says “If two of you shall agree on anything on earth, my father in heaven will do it. That is the power of agreement. Wherever there is agreement, there will be unity and peace. Deuteronomy 32:30 also says, “One will chase a thousand and two will chase ten thousand” that is what happens when you and your husband agree on issues. When there is unity, your prayers become more potent and powerful. You receive quick and better answers.

The importance of agreeing on issues is the subject matter of this book because it is intended to add value and thereby enhance your marriage. Mutual agreement on pertinent issues is a sure way to reduce debates and arguments when issues inadvertently arise. 



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Friday, 2 January 2015

Problems of Marriage 2




Inadequate Preparation
It has been estimated that over 80% of married people are ill-prepared before tying the nuptial nut with their spouse. A lot is said about the wedding day and elaborate preparations made towards making a grand impression and creating as much publicity about the wedding but this is usually done at the detriment of the long time commitment that marriage entails.

Parents often do not do much to prepare their children for the demands for such long term commitments and so the children only know so much about marriage by what they see on TV and what they observe from their parents. Unfortunately, TV only tends to glorify casual sex and infidelity as virtues rather than what they truly are.

Some couples have jumped into marriages without adequate preparations and the book “Four Things Intending Couples Must Agree On Before Getting Married”is primarily meant to prepare you for marriage. It is also an attempt to make those who are already married do the “right” things they should have done before they got married. If by chance you are already married and you did not agree on these things; then you could still sit down, talk with your spouse and agree. It is not too late to start afresh.

A young man went to a swimming pool and saw people swimming and he thought it was a simple thing to stay afloat. So he jumped into the water and sank. Why? He did not know that it takes lots of practice to learn to stay afloat. Many people have jumped into marriage that way and before you know it, they start looking for help here and there because they had been inadequately prepared for marriage.
You need to be well prepared mentally, emotionally and financially for marriage. You also need a lot of good counseling from parents and trained counselors who will tell you the bare facts. 

Marriage is not romance or sex though they play a vital role in cementing the union between a man and a woman in holy matrimony because when the thrill and emotional high clouds have dissipated, it take hard work for any marriage to work.

Femi Imevbore
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