As we discussed and shared ideas it dawned on me that conflicts also arise not only as a result of things said but also as a result of thing not said. Our body language, facial expression and posture can convey a powerful message that even words may be unable to pass across.
When we fail to discuss issues and sweep them under the carpet, what will invariably manifest is that our body language begin to speak louder than our words. what we fail to vocalize is substituted by our actions are interpreted to convey even with the best of intentions.
The best way out of conflicts in the home is to talk. We as men should be grateful that women have the natural disposition to talk therefore the problem seems to fall upon the shoulder of the men to allow dialogue to be a regular feature of the home.
When we talk to each other, our objective should be to clarify our position on things and not to win a verbal battle. When we allow emotions to take the place or reason and persuasion we actually worsen the situation.
The spouse that feels verbally defeated will shy away from engaging the other in further discussions because he or she wants to avoid further emotional damage and therefore issues are bottled up.
The couple I had lunch with told me they discuss anything and everything. They even talk about the temptations they face with the opposite sex, so that they are able to find strength and support in each other.
This is what marriage should be!
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