This is one of the problems that many homes go through where the expectations are unrealistic and unreasonable. To expect that your spouse will not change is to be naive. Change in life is a constant and a good look in the mirror will confirm that whether you like it or not change is inevitable.
Let me speak first of all from the man's point of view. I have observed over the years that there are certain areas in a man's life where changes may occur. Sometime such changes are so drastic that it begins to look like a metamorphosis. Here are some typical examples.
1. Change in Life style:
When men are younger, they tend to be more conscious of their looks and dressing but this tendency seems to wane as they mature. As men grow older they tend to care less about their looks.
2. Change in taste:
Most men tend to change their taste over time and what was once very attractive to them may no longer appeal to them over time.
3. Change in temperament:
Moods and temperaments tend to change with age. Usually the older the man, the more patient he is likely to become. I have seem cases of men who were once very volatile in their youth becoming almost docile in their matured years. Having said this the reverse may be the case where someone was once quiet and docile becoming aggressive and hostile in later years.
The import of this discuss is that as a woman do not assume that your husband will remain the same man you married over the years. He will definitely change in more than one ways and you should be prepared to accommodate these changes or else you will become frustrated.
The reason why men change over the years is something for another day but suffice it to say that there are bound to be changes.
So what do you do to cope with this inevitable reality?
1. Do not think you spouse is incapable of changing - he will over time
2. When you begin to notice changes in his behavior or taste, take time to find out why? It may just be a reaction to something you are doing or fail to do!
3. You must also be willing to accommodate (ignore) any change that will not drastically affect your relationship.
4. Be ready to change to align with whatever direction your spouse is changing towards. Your spouse may suddenly begin to develop a likeness for say football; do not be a clog in the realization of his new fancy, you too can adjust to accommodate this new trend.
I have also discovered that as men grow older their taste in women changes. While at one time they were attracted to the opposite sex by a particular feature, over time because of a number of factors too numerous to discuss here, such taste may change sometimes very drastically.
That is why as a woman you must be on top of what your husband like per time. Do not assume that the man you married 10, 20, 30 years ago is still the same.
He is not the same! At least I can speak for myself and a few men I know.
God bless you.
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