THE HOME SERIES 3 – THE DUTIES OF THE MAN

“Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, "Indeed, has God said, 'You shall not eat from any tree of the garden'?" ² The woman said to the serpent, "From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; ³ but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, 'You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.' " ⁴ The serpent said to the woman, "You surely will not die! ⁵ "For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." ⁶ When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. ⁷ Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings.
⁸ They heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. ⁹ Then the LORD God called to the man, and said to him, "Where are you?" ¹⁰ He said, "I heard the sound of You in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid myself." ¹¹ And He said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?" ¹² The man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate.” Gen 3:1-12 (NASB)

Last time we started looking at the duties of a man as the protector of his home and in reflection, I discovered that I did not actually delve into details.

I will like to list the mistakes the Adam made with the hope that it will help us as men to identify what God expects from the man as the protector of his home.

The first mistake was that he failed to shield his wife from threats. He who knew what to call all animals failed to recognize the imminent threat of leaving his wife to navigate life on her own. While not attempting to take anything away from the woman, I strongly believe that most women need the security of having a man guide them through the challenges of life affairs. To leave the woman alone to take serious decisions that will impact the entire family is an act of negligence. This was Adam’s first mistake.

The second mistake was that having fallen prey to the antics of the devil, Adam failed to defend his wife before God. He ought to have taken responsibility for what his wife did because in any case he was the one that was instructed by God and not the woman. To now turn around and blame the woman is buck passing pure and simple. We must be man enough to take responsibility for the actions of your wife even if she is wrong and you do not agree with her. 

It is an act of cowardize to leave your wife to unprotected and allowed to pay as it were for her shortcomings. I recommend that as a man who is worth his salt, your duty will be to first protect your wife and then when you come home you can begin to straighten her out. I must emphasize that I am not in anyway advocating acceptance of misbehavior but that for peace to reign in a home, the woman must have a sense of security, knowing that her husband will stand by her no matter what.

That is the challenge.

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