Let us for a moment argue some of the demerits of being open to your wife. There is the story of a man who had an affair with a colleague in the office and as a good Christian ought to do confessed to his wife and sought forgiveness. What happened was that he had worked rather late that day and found that he was alone in this big office with an unmarried female staff who also had to work late. They got talking and one thing led to another and before you could stay Jack Robinson, they found themselves on the floor of the office. The man was so guilty of what he inadvertently did that he immediately confided in his wife.
Unfortunately for him the wife was so distraught by his act of infidelity and for many months could not bring herself to forgive him. At the end of it the man regretted confiding in his wife.
Now you may be tempted on the surface to say the man should have kept his mouth shut and secretly repented but we forget that there is always a third party to every act of infidelity - the other woman or man.
What you may call a mistake may be something completely different for the other person. I have know people who took a mere hug to mean something very romantic and interpreted one's honest gesture quite differently. Now if you happen to make quite an impression on the other person, you may be in for a battle in your hands.
Many times we can never envisage the outcomes of our misdeeds. I am sure if King David had known that his adulterous act with Bathsheba will bring so much untold problems for him, he would have decided that it was not worth all the trouble he went through. For those of us who may not be so conversant with all that transpired later in the life of David, it was this act of indiscretion on his part that led to his son Absalom revolting against him and sleeping with his father's concubines in public. He did his own in private, but he was to reap the shame in public.
While I am not looking at Infidelity just now, the point I am trying to make is that every act has consequences so of them completely beyond our control and therefore unless we have our spouses on the same page with us it may be difficult to face the consequences of our actions.
It was the support of Hilary Clinton that helped her Husband former President Bill Clinton, wade through the Lewinsky episode aside from the fact that he had a sugar coated tongue.
The price you pay for honesty is far less costly in the long run to the price you will have to pay when the truth finally surfaces since nothing can be hidden for ever.
More on this next time. Stay blessed.
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