This kind of marriage is not based on the solid foundation of love but on such mundane things like beauty, money, connection, social status and sexual pleasures. The foundation of such a marriage is very temporal because if there is a little hitch it is enough to bring it down.
I have often heard people talk about being compatible with someone but such compatibility is based on physical attributes. Compatibility being anchored on the things we like, our preferences in terms of music, sports and hobbies but the truth is that such a foundation is likened by Jesus to someone who builds his house upon the sand. (Matthew 7:26-27)
It is a fact of life that people change over time. Habits dissipates and new habits are formed as a result of several factors so to based your marriage on things that are subject to change can only be termed folly. If you married a very beautiful woman because of her beauty - to show off to your peers that you have a "Miss World" for your wife, but unfortunately she is involved in a motor accident and her faced is defaced beyond recognition, what do you do?
I know a lady who married a man when the man was very rich and a globe trotter as it were. She was attracted to him purely because of his money. Years later, the man's money is gone and he is now a dependent man, so she is tied to poverty. She chose the wrong parameter to determine who to marry and now she is living a life of regret. Conversely, there is the story of another lady who desired to marry a successful man but after counseling with her pastor decided to settle for a young man who at that time had nothing. Today the young man is a multi-millionaire and she is ever grateful she listened to her pastor. What the pastor saw in the young man was not beauty or wealth but the strength of character and the fear of God.
If your marriage is based on pleasure, pleasure is fleeting and does not last. After a while, you get tired of doing the same thing over and over again and with time you start looking for newer avenues for pleasure.
What should form the foundation of marriage should be things that are enduring; your faith, character, care and respect for human dignity.
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