There is the story of a couple who live together in the same house but that is just about all the intimacy they have. They sleep in separate rooms, cook separate meals and go their separate ways. In the eyes of the world they are married but in essence their marriage has broken down. The woman confessed that she had not experienced intimacy with her husband for the past 2 years.
Now what led to this situation?
There are several factors that may have contributed to this undesirable situation but one thing is sure the was total breakdown in their communication. They no longer were able to talk about their issues and "disagree to agree".
In many of such instances it starts with a little crack in the wall of their relationship and if the crack is not attended to the crack begins to deepen and finally becomes a chasm that cannot be bridged. Many couple believe that time heals ever wound but that statement does not apply in all instances.
What you sweep under the carpet will grow up to become a hydra headed monster that will threaten your home.
It is God's desire that couples talk about every issue and resolve them amicable. You spouse should be able to know how you feel about each and everything that affect both of you. Honesty and openness should be the watch word for every relationship to thrive.
"And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed." Genesis 2:25
The word translated naked here connotes the concept of being open, approachable, vulnerable one to another. It suggest that man should not be ashamed to confide his deepest and most secret heart desires to his wife and vice versa.
When this is not in place, you find that they slowly without being conscious of it begin to drift apart. The man begins to find that he confides more in colleagues in the office and friends and the wife begins to confide more in family and neighbours.
The solution is to deal with the barrier to effective communication. You need to realize that unless you can find grounds of mutual agreement with your spouse that marriage may never be what God has ordained it to be.
Let every crack be mended and every broken door be replaced!
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