There was the story of a man who was always early to work and the last to leave the office and was to be considered for special recognition by the authorities until someone decided to probe further to find out why the man was in the habit of arriving the office sometimes one hour before resumption. It was discovered that the man had a problem with his wife and "runs" away from home as early as he can and comes home late to avoid the trouble of his wife.
I have to come to identify one great hindrance to building a lasting relationship between the husband and wife. It is the assumption amongst women that nagging your husband will yield the desired results. While the man in the short run might yield to the pressure you mount on him in order for peace to reign, on the long run most men are tired out by the constant nagging of the woman.
I acknowledge the fact that many women inadvertently rely on the power of the tongue to confront their spouses but the result of nagging brings only temporal relief (if getting your way can be considered a relief) and often leads to irreversible harm to the relationship.
A classic example is taken from the life of Samson, one of the heroes of the Bible. With all the anointing that he possessed, he was by the constant nagging of women. First it was his first wife who through nagging got the answer to the puzzle and told Samson's enemies (Judges 14:15-17).
"On the fourth day, they said to Samson's wife, "Coax your husband into explaining the riddle for us, or we will burn you and your father's household to death. Did you invite us here to rob us?" Then Samson's wife threw herself on him, sobbing, "You hate me! You don't really love me. You've given my people a riddle, but you haven't told me the answer." "I haven't even explained it to my father or mother," he replied, "so why should I explain it to you?" She cried the whole seven days of the feast. So on the seventh day he finally told her, because she continued to press him. She in turn explained the riddle to her people." Judges 14: 15-17(NIV)
Secondly, Delilah also use the weapon of nagging to get the secret of Samson's strength and betrayed him to his enemies. While you may say that the fault was primarily Samson's for marrying a Philistine (a daughter of the enemy) one must not loss sight of the fact that the methods employed by the two women who betrayed him are still the same methods employed by many women today.
Wives hear me clearly, no man likes to be nagged and as the Bible says it is better to live on the rooftop than to leave in the same house with a nagging wife.
Without doubt every woman has power over her husband. All you need to know is that you can influence your husband by knowing his soft spot. You do not have to nag him to make him do what you want. On the contrary, a little pampering will achieve more for you that nagging.
When a man is nagged, you are actually saying that he has failed in his responsibility. Another opinion is that the man is slack in the discharge of his duties and these are things that many men do not like to be told by their wives.
I may be called a failure by the society but to be called a failure by my wife is the ultimate bitter pill.
More next time. God bless you
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